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Live with less stress and more confidence

  • Do people think of you as stronger than you feel?

  • Want to feel less stressed,  overwhelmed or alone?

  • Need someone to talk to who feels safe, calm and helpful, besides your friends and family?

  • Need support for your parenting, work, relationships or communication skills?

  • Questioning your gender identity or sexual preference?

Let's figure out together what's not working and how to change it. Get beyond the sabotaging influence of the past and develop the self-confidence you need to get whatever you want. I've been helping people as a psychotherapist in private practice for over 30 years.

I now offer sessions exclusively on video conference




Click here if you are wondering if I'm the right therapist for you

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Cynthia is extremely bright and thoughtful. A careful listener, Cynthia shows an intent interest in and gentle caring for people that is felt by her clients. She is remarkably clear-sighted and wise."

Nina Ham, LCSW

Thank you so much for all the help you were to me. I have been doing well. I am happier and more adjusted than ever.


I highly recommend Cynthia Lubow, MFT as a therapist. She is very compassionate, smart and perceptive.

"I've told you all my deepest darkest secrets, even stuff I haven't told my husband, and you never judged me and always made me feel normal. I can't thank you enough for that, it's been an incredible gift."



More Testimonials

My Articles and Blogs:

As Featured On EzineArticles


Interested in my unique thoughts about depression? I was the Depression Expert at Goodtherapy.org for several years, where I wrote original material monthly. If you'd like to see those articles, find them here:

Goodtherapy.org Depression Expert


One especially popular one is "What it's Like Inside a Depressed Person's Head"

Another is "Hidden Depression Among Us"


My Books:

"Depression is very different from sadness. Two of the clearest differences are the self-attack and pessimism that accompany depression. Sadness, alone, doesn’t cause us to hate ourselves or blame ourselves. Nor does it cause us to interpret our past, present and future as terrible and hopeless.

Depression, however, comes with a classic pattern that basically gets down to: “I’m bad; I’ve always been bad; I’ll always be bad;” and/or “my life is bad; it’s always been bad; it’ll always be bad.” Obviously people don’t usually think in these exact words, but it is experienced as a pervasive sense of being unforgivable, or of failure, defectiveness, lack of lovability, hopelessness, or powerlessness."


This is a quote from my ebook, Ending the Blues:

 A Psychotherapist's Secrets to Living Depression-Free.

"I’ve struggled with depression for over half of my life and I’ve devoured every piece of literature on the topic. But, I’ve never come across a more eloquent and poignant description of what it’s like to live with this condition. Your words instantly brought me to tears because for the first time I felt like someone truly understood, and that I wasn’t alone in my mind. Thank you!"


which is available along with my other ebook,

Higher Power for Recovering Cynics:


Developing a Personalized Spiritual Life Without all the B#*$#t.

If you want nothing to do with any particular religion, but still want some kind of spiritual life, this book will teach you many ways to develop a spiritual life that is just right for you.


"I just wanted to let you know it was a very insightful and thought-provoking read. Thank you for writing it."

"I think this book needs to be available to the many people out there who are struggling with this very issue; how to find a HP in these troubled and ever-changing times."

"I think this material could go really far and change people's lives."



Email: CynthiaLubow@yahoo.com 

 Cynthia W. Lubow, MFT

 For 30+ years, compassionately helping people build self-confidence and feel happier.

 San Francisco East Bay Area Therapist

I can work with anyone who lives in California through Skype

Including San Francisco, Berkeley, Oakland, Los Angeles, San Luis Obispo, Monterey, Santa Rosa, Sacramento, San Diego, Ukiah, Marin...