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Edie
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Oct 22, 2007
4:04 PM
Hi
My daughter was marriade a year ago July. 4 months into the marriage it started falling apart .... how do parents let go? This last year was pure hell! My husband and I suffered much pain ... I ended up in the hospital with chest pains ... turned out to be anxiety. We ended up seeing a councelor for this (among a bunch of other stresses that were going on!) - Well things are back to normal - the kids are back together, going to counceling, daughters husband is finishing up school. Daughter working. They are currently living on our property and are doing great. So .... why is my chest still killing me and how do I let go? I have ruled out any problems with the heart / lungs. I am assuming it is still stress related. Is it possible once the heart is so hurt - the pain never goes away?
Cynthia
185 posts
Oct 24, 2007
12:55 AM
Edie,

Generally, our emotional "hearts" do heal with time and the pain eventually goes away--especially that intense pain. Something about the trouble your daughter and son-in-law touched a deep place of pain inside you. I don't know you well enough to know what that is, but can you think of anything that has ever happened in your life that was extremely painful and in some way reminds you of what happened between your daughter and son-in-law? For example, if your parents divorced when you were young, and you never got to resolve painful feelings you had at the time, all those feelings could have gotten stirred up by this event. There are endless possibilities, though, this is just one example. Can you think of another time in your life you felt like you do now, or went through something traumatic to you?

Warmly,

Cynthia

Last Edited by on Oct 24, 2007 12:55 AM


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