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Anonymous
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Feb 26, 2007
6:23 PM
dear cyinthia
iam telling u the truth today iam an man age 36 iam working in arabian gulf, i did business past 5 years i lost my two business and now iam working as an sles manager

i never fall on love with any one after five years when i leave my mother country i found one girl in net i loved here like any thing she loved me also

around 9 month she called me many time to come and meet here folks i did not get time because iam well busyin my projects.

at finalley i told here i will come on december 2006 she told me send my mother to talk with here folks i send my mother to here house

i dont knew what happend with there folks but iam teling u the truth i loved here lot untill todayi told here lots of lies due to i drunk because of my friends are drunkers and rich people, my nature also became like that always i use to go for disco and every day i drunk evry time i spoke to here i wil tell lies,

when my mother came back from there home back we broke theere folks told not intenretsed
icannot control at all i called here i told iam sorry i never do this agian please give me one chance i wil change she told me it is over no more
untill today i cannot forget here in my life, my mother saw me many girls but i dont like any one else until today i love here lot and lot

i cannot forget here, i need here in my life i can proof t o every one every minuts and second i remember here

please give me advice
Cynthia
142 posts
Feb 26, 2007
6:31 PM
I'm not sure I understand everything that happened, but it sounds like you have a lot of emotional pain from losing the woman you love. It doesn't sound like she is willing to have a relationship with you, so the only thing you can do is try to heal from the loss of her. You will need to think about her and cry and talk to people about what you miss. Over time, the pain will lessen. This is a very hard time for you.

The other part I think I understand is that the relationship ended because of your behavior when you were drunk. Part of the healing from this relationship may be to learn how you want to act in the next one. If your drinking lead to losing the woman you love, it's probably a reasonable guess that your drinking has the potential to destroy future relationships as well. Do you think you have a problem with drinking?

Warmly,

Cynthia
Anonymous
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Jun 22, 2007
9:29 AM
Hi,
I am looking for a therapist to deal with issues of how I communicate, my fear of being vulnerable and how to let go of negative relationships in all areas of my life. Please help....
Cynthia
176 posts
Jun 26, 2007
10:16 PM
First, to clarify, you are not the same person as the one who started in this thread of posts listed above, right? My answer might be different if you were, so I'll assume for now that you're not.

The issues you have mentioned are ones I and most psychotherapists work with all the time. If you can find a good therapist, she/he should be able to help you, unless there is more involved than what little I know.

Warmly,

Cynthia

Last Edited by on Jun 26, 2007 10:19 PM


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