When I was only 13 years old I started a relationship with a man who was 27 years old at the time and it all ended bad because when i turned 15 I decided to move on and he did not take it very well. He started insulting me, hurting me emotionally and physically, and telling me that if a ever left or called the police on him he would come back to hurt me and the rest of my family. Now I am 20 years old with a son and a husband and feel I like I am not sure what i want I am always affraid of him coming back and that he tries to hurt my loved ones. I feel like I have no motivation because I am always thinking of when that day comes and know I even have dreams about him coming back after me what should I do? I know he was in jell for like three years or so, but I also know that he is out, but I don't know were. All of the frustation of thinking of has had me down emotionally for five years and I am not sure if the love of my son and husband are going to be enough to keep me going. What sould I do, I know I need help, but I don;t know were to get if from.

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Hopefully they will lead you to a group. The symptoms of trauma you're experiencing, though, would probably be best addressed by EMDR, so you don't have the fears, the flashbacks, the nightmares or the triggers that are classic post traumatic stress symptoms.

Warm Regards,
Cynthia

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Domestic Violence Resource Guide
Police Phone Numbers
Police Emergency 9-1-1
San Francisco Police Non-Emergency 553-0123
Mission Police Advocacy 558-5445

24 Hour Crisis Lines
See also Battered Women?s Shelters below Woman INC 864-4722
Community United Against Violence
Gay / Lesbian Domestic Violence 333-HELP
S.F. Suicide Prevention 781-0500
(24 hr crisis line)
S.F. Women Against Rape 647-7273
(24 hr crisis line) Provides:
24 hr crisis line, peer counseling, legal advocacy, sexual assault survivor group, and women?s aftercare program.
S.F. Rape Treatment 821-3222
(24 hr crisis) under the Dept. of Public Health
Provides:
24 hr crisis line, individual counseling, group counseling, legal advocacy (works with Witness Program & S.F. Women Against Rape), medical clinic (does medical examinations), and hospital advocacy.
Does not provide:
drop-in counseling, men or children groups.
Cost:
sliding scale fee for counseling

Battered Women?s Shelters
San Francisco La Casa de les Madres 503-0500
Rosalie House 864-4777
Asian Women?s Shelter 751-0880
Teen Moms Shelter 821-3222

Bay Area Safe Place - Oakland 510-536-7233
Battered Women?s Alternatives - Contra Costa 1-888-215-5555
Marin Abused Women?s Services 924-6616
Support Network for Battered Women 1-800-572-2782
San Mateo Women?s Shelter - Center for Domestic Violence 650-321-8471 or
650-312-8515
(24 hr. hotline)
SAVE - Fremont 510-540-5354
Women?s Refuge Inc. - North Oakland 510-547-4663

Other Services
Innovative Housing 285-6888
Connecting Point 863-4663
Episcopal Sanctuary 863-3893
Night Ministry 986-1464
Raphael House 474-4621
Hamilton Family Center 665-2354

Legal Assistance
San Francisco Neighborhood Legal Assistance Foundation 982-1300
Coop. Restraining Order Clinic 864-4722
Nihonmachi Legal Outreach 567-6255
Raphael House 474-4621
Hamilton Family Center 665-2354

Criminal Justice System
Family Violence Project 552-7550 (in the District Attorney?s office)
Provides:
follow up on reported calls to the police about Domestic Violence, referrals to shelters, individual counseling, and support groups, courtroom advocacy, advice on court room procedures & restraining orders, drop-in counseling, programs for men,Same Sex Awareness & informational sessions,training sessions on Domestic Violence & the criminal justice system, and training sessions on Domestic Violence awareness.
Cost: free.
SFPD General Work 553-1141
Domestic Violence Response Unit 553-9225
S.F. District Attorney 553-1754
Victim Witness Assistance 553-9044
Office of Citizen?s Compliants - report police misconduct 553-1407

Counseling
For women:(see also Battered Women?s Shelters) Woman INC 864-4722
Cameron House (Assistance in Asian Languages) 781-0401
Center For Special Problems 292-1500

For children: Child Crisis Services 695-5195
The Talk Line 441-KIDS
CASARC 206-8386

For elderly: San Francisco Consortium for Elder Abuse Prevention 885-7850
Bayview Network for Elders 647-5353

For batterers: MANALIVE 552-1361
Center For Special Problems 292-1500

Other: Mental Health Information & Referral 981-4700
Women?s Alcoholism Center 285-4484
Family Violence Prevention Fund (this is a national organization) Provides:
advocacy, educational programs on domestic violence, Health Resource Center, children?s program, training for CPS workers and health care providers. Does not provide men?s groups, counseling, or food emergency.

Gay / Lesbian Domestic Violence Resources
Community United Against Violence 333-HELP
Woman, INC 864-4722
Men Overcoming Violence 626-MOVE
Center For Special Problems 292-1500
San Francisco Network for Battered Lesbian & Bisexual Women 281-0276

Bay Area Domestic Violence Resources
Battered Women?s Services - San Mateo 312-8515 Provides:
help with legal issues, crisis counseling (24 hr hotline), shelter, a Women?s group every Thursday night, Children?s Art Therapy group, long-term clinical counseling, a 24 Emergency Outreach Program where police go into the survivor?s home after a crisiscall has been made, anda Men?s Diversion program (court mandated).
Cost:
crisis counseling is free up to 5 session; and on-going counseling is based on sliding scale fee.
Marin Abused Women?s Services 924-6616
Support Network for Battered Women 800-572-2782 Provides:
24 hr crisis line, drop-in counseling from 9-5 p.m., emergency food assistance, emergency transportation & childcare, referrals to emergency shelters and hotels, advocacy, legal assistance with restraining orders, general information & referral, on-going counseling, andcommunity outreach. Does not provide children or men?s programs.
Cost:
free & sliding scale.
A Safe Place - Oakland 510-536-7233
(crisis line)
510-444-7289
(individual counseling)
510-636-4747
(business line) Provides:
24 hr crisis line, shelter, individual counseling, advocacy, a Latino program, legal assistance,a children?s program, andemergency food assistance at the shelter. Does not provide men?s groups.
Cost:
no fee.
SAVE- Fremont 510-794-6055
(crisis line) Provides:
24 hr crisis line, 30 bed shelter, community support groups, transitional housing for women & their children, individual counseling, andemergency food at shelter. Does not offer men or children groups.
Cost:
sliding scale fee for individual counseling, and no fee for groups.
Family Violence Law Center - Berkeley/Oakland 510-540-5354
(crisis # from 9-5 PM)
510-540-5370
(business line) Provides:
support groups, childcare, advice and counsel on family law issues, training on court room presentations and filing for restraining orders, andservices for battered gay men.Spanish speaking staff is available. Serves northern Alameda county. Does not provide children or men groups.
Cost:
not sure.
Domestic Violence Law Project Southern Alameda 510-733-2071
Marin Abused Women?s Services 924-6616
(crisis line for women)
924-3456
(crisis line for Spanish speaking women)
924-1070
(crisis line for men?s program) Provides:
24 hr crisis lines for women, Spanish speaking women, men?s groups, transitional housing program for women & their children, support groups, information & referrals, networks with legal Aid, program for transitional communities in Novato, COPS program to train police officers about Domestic Violence, shelter, services for gays and lesbians, teen crisis counseling, andchildren?s program at shelter.
Cost:
no fee.
Shalom Bayit toll-free counseling line 866-SHALOM-7
Business line 510-451-8874 Bay Area Jewish Women Working to End Domestic Violence provides individual counseling and support groups for battered Jewish women

Other Couseling
Woman, Inc 864-4722
Operation Concern 626-7000
Cameron House 781-0401
Center for Special Problems 272-1500
La Casa de las Madres Drop-in Center 777-1808
CUAV 333-HELP

Legal Counseling
S.F. Neighborhood Legal Assistance Foundation 627-0240
Nichonmachi Legal Outreach 567-6255
Woman Inc. 864-4722

Criminal Justice Resources
Family Violence Project 252-8900
Victim Witness 553-9044

Counseling For Violent Men
Man Overcoming Violence, S.F. 626-MOVE
Marin Abused Women?s Services Men?s Program - San Rafael 924-1070
Oakland Man?s Project 510-835-2433
Men?s Program - Contra Costa 510-676-2968
552-1361

Domestic Violence Emergency Resources
La Casa De Las Madres
Bilingual Services 777-1808
(Business)
333-1515
(24 Hour Crisis Line)
777-1808
(Drop-in Center)

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Warm Regards,
Cynthia