What I worked out with Ricky is that while we're having sex, we will keep talking and/or making eye contact most of the time so I know he's not thinking about some skinny model with long painted fingernails.  Actually, truth-be-told, I was also worried that I would be thinking about my therapist, so this will help keep us both honest.  I do wish Ricky had breasts--I really miss them.  Sometimes I even start feeling my own breasts when we're making love because I just have to feel some soft round hairless body part, and Ricky doesn't have anything like that.  Actually, I'm lucky because Ricky isn't very hairy--his stomach and chest are mostly just smooth skin, and I like to feel it.